Wedding Wednesday: When are you going to have kids?

Something that I have heard A LOT over the years is…so when are you going to have kids?  The first day I went back to work after my engagement I was asked – when are you gonna have kids?  We were asked at our engagement party – so when are you gonna have kids?  While in the midst of wedding planning I was asked – so when are you gonna have kids?  OK ENOUGH!!!!  LOL!  I LOVE children.  I LOVE my nieces and nephews.  But, I LOVE my time with my honey right now!  We would like to enjoy some time as newlyweds and plan to have children in the future.

jessica and jeremy

photo via Snider Shots

In my book, there is nothing wrong with enjoying some time with your husband before your lives are blessed with a child.  We would like to travel, purchase a home, decorate, continue our education, etc. during our newlywed phase.  Don’t worry…Children are on the horizon in the future.  But for now…we are going to enjoy some “us” time.

rosie pope

You may recall my sister recently had the honor of interviewing Rosie Pope.  Ok – confession – I ADORE her!  I was beyond thrilled when my sister asked me to go along with her to meet Rosie and take pics!  My sister even asked Rosie a question for me.  I wanted to know Rosie’s view on how a newlywed couple can prepare for children in the near future.  She gave the AMAZING advice of – don’t be too hard on yourselves and all things happen in time and when they are supposed to!  She reminded me that people put too much pressure on themselves and put a timeline on things that causes undo stress.  So, I am going to take Rosie’s advice!  I am going to enjoy our time as newlyweds and look forward to the day that we go from 2 to 3! So, stop asking already…Haha!

Thanks to my sister for tackling such a sensitive topic!

Comments

  1. says

    Hey, I completely understand! I just got married myself and have had this question asked a few times. It can get annoying! I don’t want to have kids till after I turn 30 (I’m 25 right now) and I think having time as newlyweds is so important. I would also love to travel, one of my goals is before we have children is to go on a tour in Europe. It’s much harder to do everything when you have children…or so I have been told. haha
    I think your making a wise decision. Have kids when YOUR ready! :)

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    Jessica Reply:

    @Heidi, Thank you, Heidi! =) We cannot wait until the day we are blessed with a baby, but until then – we are loving our time together!

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  2. says

    There is no reason to rush having kids…I’ve been married for 16 years and we finally had our first child a little less than 2 years ago. Things happen for a reason and the timing is not always right…so relax and enjoy being married!!!

    Heidi

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  3. says

    There is totally no rush. I think its also funny how our parents generation is always so quick to ask. I have to be like, “Ma. Shhh.” So many people have trouble conceiving or may decide they don’t even want to go down that path. Us time is so important.
    Kiran

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  4. says

    everyone was asking me the same question, when are you going to have children, even before i was married because my husband and i dated 7 years before getting engaged. turned out that we couldnt get pregnant naturally after 3 years of trying post marriage. for this reason, i would NEVER ask someone the “when” question. it’s just not ok because you don’t know someone’s situation. i know that some of those people felt bad in hindsight, not that they should, but it’s just best not to ask that question… ever!

    interestingly enough, on this topic, i finally got to announce at my blog today that i’m pregnant!!! i can’t wait to join in with all the other mommy bloggers and chat about all things baby :)

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    The BonBon Rose Girls Reply:

    Congrats on announcing it lady!

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